Why do we compare ourselves to others?
That is a simple answer.
In 2020, we have access to everyone. All it takes is a simple follow or a click of a button. I used to scroll through Facebook and look at everyone’s family vacation pictures. My kids would be sitting across the room eating their third bag of gold fish for the day and my husband, at the time, would be working his normal 12-18 daily shifts.
I found myself becoming resentful. Here I am looking around the room and wondering why that couldn’t be me. Why were my kids not in Pottery Barn bathing suits and drinking out of plastic pineapple cups?
He always got the brunt of it all.
Here’s the man that takes care of us and financially supports our family on his own. All he wanted was a smile when he walked through the door and two little sets of feet running behind him to watch him take apart his duty belt. He wanted to feel appreciated and loved.
Instead, often times I was ready to pounce as soon as he walked through the door. His career was something he loved. Yet, after a long days work, he came home to someone who made him feel unloved.
What’s the point of all this?
The point is, I was wrong.
I was comparing our life to those of others. I was counting all the days he had to work early or came home late. The things I didn’t consider were why I felt that way. I wasn’t mad at him. I was mad at me.
I would try to find a reason to blame anyone else.
The only person to blame was me. My unhappiness ruined my marriage. I was unhappy with me. My kids often times were held back from doing things because I was too busy dwelling on what I didn’t have. The answer to my question above is because we are unhappy with ourselves.
So, don’t wait.
Don’t wait for something to work out just the way you want it to. Have a plan B and Plan C.
There is nothing wrong with store bought water balloons and plastic kiddy pools. It may not be the beach. The sand is replaced with muddy, grassy water. We may be picking up pieces of rubber for days but it is so worth it.
Making your kids wait for you to find your happiness in life is selfish.
Some of our greatest memories included a hose and a storage bin.
Your kids aren’t hard to please. It is YOU.
It isn’t your husbands schedule or all the laundry you need to catch up on. Believe me when I say your kids won’t remember a clean house. They won’t remember the huge meals you cooked or the color you painted your kitchen.
They remember the smallest of things. So don’t wait.